Minding Our Own Business

It's tough enough trying to create a life of serenity when dealing with our own mental tendencies, real-life problems, habits and the contradictions and complexities of life. But when we feel compelled to deal with other people's issues, our goal of becoming more peaceful becomes all but impossible.

How often do we find ourselves saying things like, "I wouldn't do that if I were her," or "I can't believe he did that." How often are we frustrated, bothered, annoyed, or concerned about things that we not only cannot control or be of actual help with, but are also none of our business?

I'm not saying that we should avoid being of help to other people. Rather, it's about knowing when to help and when to leave something alone. I used to be the type of person who would jump in and try to solve a problem without being asked. Not only did my efforts prove fruitless, they were also almost always unappreciated, and sometimes even resented. Since recovering from my need to be overly involved, my life has become much simpler. And, now that i'm not butting in where i'm not wanted, i'm far more available to be of help when I am asked or truly needed.

Minding our own business goes far beyond simply avoiding the temptation to try to solve other people's problems. It also includes eavesdropping, talking behind other people's backs, and analyzing or trying to figure out other people.
Whenever I catch myself involve where I really don't belong, I always try to back off and oftentimes, it makes me feel better. I'd rather focus my attention where it's truly relevant and needed.